Navigating Loneliness and Social Pressure During the Holidays

This time of year can make loneliness stand out more, especially if our real lives don't match the pictures we see around us. This is especially true if we are far from family, our relationships are changing, we are grieving, or we just don't have many close friends.

It's not a sign of illness to feel lonely during the holidays. It's a normal feeling that comes up when we want to connect with others, find value in our lives, or feel like we belong. The difference makes it hurt more: everyone else seems to be having a good time, but you may feel like you're on the outside.

Depression and loneliness during the holiday season…

Comparing things can make you feel lonely. We see well-chosen happy times on social media, and it's simple to think that everyone else has something we don't. Sometimes it's because we feel like we have to go to events we're not ready for or because we were let down when we weren't asked at all. Both of these things can make people feel alone.

One step that can help is just recognizing your thoughts without judging them. It's okay to say that this season is tough. Being kind to yourself makes loneliness less intense and creates room for healthy ways to deal with it. Small acts of kindness can help from there. That could mean talking to a friend, going to a neighborhood event, helping out, or even just being in a public place. These little things can break up your time alone and help you remember that you're a part of the world as a whole.

Making your own routines can also help you feel better. Making a favorite meal, lighting a candle, watching a holiday movie, writing in a notebook, or going for a peaceful walk in the evening can all become traditions. They give you something to look forward to and help your nervous system calm down.

Create your own routine for inner peace…

Also, it's fine to set limits on what other people expect of you. If you feel like you have to go to events that drain your energy, it's fine to say no or join in ways that make you feel good. Meeting social expectations is less important than taking care of your mental health.

Changing the way you think about being alone can also help sometimes. Instead of seeing being alone as a sign of not being good enough, you can see it as a chance to take care of yourself, try new routines, or make your own holiday experience that truly shows who you are.

Seek help when needed…

If being lonely gets too much or starts to get in the way of your daily life, getting help can make a big difference. A therapist can help you figure out what's making you feel the way you do, find ways to deal with your problems, and regain a sense of hope and connection.

The holidays can be hard, and your feelings, no matter what they are, deserve understanding. You don't have to go through this season by yourself.